How You Can Hold Off Ejaculation- Guidance For Men
After several years as a sex therapist, I understand that the greatest difficulty males encounter during intercourse is rapid ejaculation. Descriptions of early ejaculation are not consistent, but one thing's beyond doubt – if you're having sexual intercourse for under three minutes or less before you shoot, then you most definitely should try to learn how to last longer in bed. This short article provides some effective ideas to enable you to delay your orgasm. More can be seen at the home page of longer-lasting-lovers.com.
There are some other challenges that can crop up whenever a man routinely refuses to face his early ejaculation: these include unspoken anger, tension within the partnership, and lack of interest in sex on the part of the woman, and perhaps even the chance one partner having an affair. You see, most women enjoy lovemaking for its own sake with or without orgasms, because it allows them to feel connected and close to their man.
What this implies, therefore, is that if you want to improve the quality of your relationship in all areas, both inside and outside the bedroom, you as a man have to take power over your sex-life and figure out how to last longer when you make love. The average duration of sexual intercourse is around three minutes, which is far too short a time to satisfy most women, even if they've had an orgasm before their partner enters them. Men love to have a powerful man in bed with them, and they often measure that power by his ability to last long as long as he wishes during lovemaking.
It can be a challenge to focus on the need to last longer in bed when you're making love. And of course this will not make you feel good about yourself, which unfortunately can make you ejaculate quickly the next time you have sex.
Despite that, with the right method, the vast majority of men discover they can substantially improve their performance during sexual intercourse and become longer lasting lovers fairly rapidly. With the help of these three simple tips you can give yourself much more control of your lovemaking.
First of all: you need to be 100 Percent focused to last longer in bed. It's no use saying that you would like to stop premature ejaculation and then forgetting your objective to do better in the excitement of lovemaking. It's what you do that counts, not what you say. So getting your head in the right place is essential: if you don't want to last longer for your own pleasure, do it for your partner's sake, because when she's happier in bed your whole relationship will improve dramatically. That's a decision that only you can take.
The second step in the process is to learn to relax whilst you actually make love. Sexual intercourse tends to make the muscles of the body tighten up, and the body to become aroused – you see this in signs such as shallow breathing, perspiration, and an urge to ejaculate. But all of these things actually speed up your progress towards orgasm, so anything you can do to counteract them will slow you down.
Surprisingly, it is possible to remain relaxed and your breathing deep and slow even as you become wrapped up in the excitement of sexual arousal. What you have to do is maintain a part of your mind alert to how tense you are and how deep your breathing is. Every time you sense you're becoming tense, consciously relax your muscles; every time you notice your breathing is shallow, intentionally slow it down and take regular deep breaths. They may sound like simple steps, but these two tactics will help you to last much longer during sexual intercourse.
The third step is to develop an awareness of how close you are to your ejaculation. The majority of men who come to me for help with premature ejaculation have no idea how aroused they are during lovemaking, and they almost all say that their ejaculation comes very quickly, sometimes even surprising them with speed, so much so that they are completely unable to control it. But if you're aware how near you are to ejaculating, you can slow down the rhythm of sex to reduce your arousal and extend lovemaking. When you're aware how aroused
you are, you can stop thrusting and allow your arousal to drop to a safe level.
The best way to learn how to do this is to practice during genital stimulation - use good lubricant like essential olive oil and give yourself
plenty of time. Repeatedly masturbate yourself to the point where you feel you might reach orgasm, but stop before you actually ejaculate. As you do this, maintain a sense of how aroused you are, and ensure that you listen to the signals of your body, so that you can stop masturbating before you actually ejaculate. It won't be long before you find you have much greater ability to maintain a high level of arousal without ejaculating. No matter how rapidly you reach the point of orgasm when you start this exercise, keep going, keep bringing yourself to the point of orgasm in backing off . Use self- discipline so you don't ejaculate, and you'll rapidly find that you can take more stimulation without ejaculating.
The objective of this little exercise is to learn how to stimulate yourself for up to 30 minutes without reaching climax. You should bring yourself to the point of ejaculation and then stop several times before you finally allow yourself to ejaculate. It sounds like a simple exercise, but it's incredibly powerful, and should allow you to make love for around five minutes. Furthermore, if you do something similar while you're actually enjoying sex with your partner, you'll be able to find an ability to last longer which you never suspected you possessed.
There are some other challenges that can crop up whenever a man routinely refuses to face his early ejaculation: these include unspoken anger, tension within the partnership, and lack of interest in sex on the part of the woman, and perhaps even the chance one partner having an affair. You see, most women enjoy lovemaking for its own sake with or without orgasms, because it allows them to feel connected and close to their man.
What this implies, therefore, is that if you want to improve the quality of your relationship in all areas, both inside and outside the bedroom, you as a man have to take power over your sex-life and figure out how to last longer when you make love. The average duration of sexual intercourse is around three minutes, which is far too short a time to satisfy most women, even if they've had an orgasm before their partner enters them. Men love to have a powerful man in bed with them, and they often measure that power by his ability to last long as long as he wishes during lovemaking.
It can be a challenge to focus on the need to last longer in bed when you're making love. And of course this will not make you feel good about yourself, which unfortunately can make you ejaculate quickly the next time you have sex.
Despite that, with the right method, the vast majority of men discover they can substantially improve their performance during sexual intercourse and become longer lasting lovers fairly rapidly. With the help of these three simple tips you can give yourself much more control of your lovemaking.
First of all: you need to be 100 Percent focused to last longer in bed. It's no use saying that you would like to stop premature ejaculation and then forgetting your objective to do better in the excitement of lovemaking. It's what you do that counts, not what you say. So getting your head in the right place is essential: if you don't want to last longer for your own pleasure, do it for your partner's sake, because when she's happier in bed your whole relationship will improve dramatically. That's a decision that only you can take.
The second step in the process is to learn to relax whilst you actually make love. Sexual intercourse tends to make the muscles of the body tighten up, and the body to become aroused – you see this in signs such as shallow breathing, perspiration, and an urge to ejaculate. But all of these things actually speed up your progress towards orgasm, so anything you can do to counteract them will slow you down.
Surprisingly, it is possible to remain relaxed and your breathing deep and slow even as you become wrapped up in the excitement of sexual arousal. What you have to do is maintain a part of your mind alert to how tense you are and how deep your breathing is. Every time you sense you're becoming tense, consciously relax your muscles; every time you notice your breathing is shallow, intentionally slow it down and take regular deep breaths. They may sound like simple steps, but these two tactics will help you to last much longer during sexual intercourse.
The third step is to develop an awareness of how close you are to your ejaculation. The majority of men who come to me for help with premature ejaculation have no idea how aroused they are during lovemaking, and they almost all say that their ejaculation comes very quickly, sometimes even surprising them with speed, so much so that they are completely unable to control it. But if you're aware how near you are to ejaculating, you can slow down the rhythm of sex to reduce your arousal and extend lovemaking. When you're aware how aroused
you are, you can stop thrusting and allow your arousal to drop to a safe level.
The best way to learn how to do this is to practice during genital stimulation - use good lubricant like essential olive oil and give yourself
plenty of time. Repeatedly masturbate yourself to the point where you feel you might reach orgasm, but stop before you actually ejaculate. As you do this, maintain a sense of how aroused you are, and ensure that you listen to the signals of your body, so that you can stop masturbating before you actually ejaculate. It won't be long before you find you have much greater ability to maintain a high level of arousal without ejaculating. No matter how rapidly you reach the point of orgasm when you start this exercise, keep going, keep bringing yourself to the point of orgasm in backing off . Use self- discipline so you don't ejaculate, and you'll rapidly find that you can take more stimulation without ejaculating.
The objective of this little exercise is to learn how to stimulate yourself for up to 30 minutes without reaching climax. You should bring yourself to the point of ejaculation and then stop several times before you finally allow yourself to ejaculate. It sounds like a simple exercise, but it's incredibly powerful, and should allow you to make love for around five minutes. Furthermore, if you do something similar while you're actually enjoying sex with your partner, you'll be able to find an ability to last longer which you never suspected you possessed.